Life Coaches: Embracing Imperfection to Empower Others - Drew Houston

There is a common misconception that life coaches have it all figured out. And who can blame folks for thinking that? In our social media fueled world of “influencers”, aesthetics and even one of the latest Tik Tok trends #TradWives, it almost seems as if you shouldn’t even post on social media if your life isn’t 100% perfection, much less be in a position to help anyone else. Well, I could write an entire blog about how we often abuse ourselves with “shoulds” and “should nots” (and perhaps I will one day), but right now, I want to acknowledge the fact that as a coach, I do not have it all together. I’d venture to guess that most coaches who are authentic with themselves and vulnerable with others would admit the same thing, and guess what? That’s okay. In fact, it’s better than okay; it’s great! Liffe coaches don’t need to have all the answers or live a flawless life to be effective. In fact, our imperfections can be our greatest strength.

Authenticity Over Perfection

As in any relationship, clients often connect with coaches who are real and relatable. When a life coach is open about their own struggles and growth journey, it fosters a sense of trust and relatability. This authenticity reassures clients that they are not alone in their challenges and that personal growth is a lifelong process, even for the coach. Throughout my own professional journey, I have struggled with imposter syndrome, feeling the need to code-switch, and doing what I felt I should (there’s that word again!) be doing rather than what I felt called to do. When I share these experiences with my clients, they are able to see a bit of themselves in me and it allows us to build a rapport with each other based on understanding and shared experiences.

Empathy Through Experience

As a life coach who has faced and overcome my own obstacles, I can offer deep empathy and practical insights. My firsthand experience allows me to understand my clients' struggles on a personal level, offering advice not just from theory but from lived experience. This shared understanding can create the perfect environment for thought partnership and a powerful bond that inspires clients to take bold steps toward their goals.

Continuous Learning and Growth

This one’s a big one! Self-improvement and professional development changed my life for the better; so much so that I decided to make a career out of it! Life coaching is not about having all the answers; it’s about guiding clients to find their own. One of the things that I consistently tell my clients is that “you have the answers- I just happen to have the questions.”As someone who is continually going through the process of defining and redefining what success means to me, and then outlining the steps that it will take to actualize that success, I recognize how important the commitment to continuous improvement is. As a life coach with this perspective, I help guide clients to do the same.

The Power of Perspective

Coaches with diverse experiences and challenges can offer unique perspectives that might not come from someone who seemingly has it all together. These varied perspectives can help clients see their situations from different angles, opening up new possibilities for solutions and growth.

Conclusion

I don’t have it all together. I don’t have a perfect life or all the answers to yours. Life coaches don’t need to have a perfect life to help others. Our value lies in our authenticity, empathy, and commitment to continuous growth. By embracing our imperfections, we not only connect more deeply with our clients but also empower them to embrace their own journeys with confidence. Considering working with a life coach? Remember, a coach doesn’t have to be perfect to be perfect for you!